Wedding Ceremony Order Of Service
Events With A Twist


Wedding ceremony order of service events are most often traditional in church or synagogue settings.

Contemporary twists can suit the vision of a modern couple in any venue indoors or outside.

When children are guests, it's a wonderful idea to have them participate in the wedding ceremony order of service and give them a job to do.

Children can strew flower petals to create an "aisle" anywhere. Flower petals come in all colors to match your decor and are so inexpensive. Find them at your local craft store or online.

I recall one marriage where a child willingly led me down the aisle to deposit me at the ceremony space. When this job was over, the child scooted off to sit with a beaming aunt.

Wedding ceremony order of service is most often produced in a house of worship and can be included in any secular or non-religious nuptial experience as well.

"Given our extended, blended families, your suggestions to include and honor each special family member helped us avoid any irritation. Everyone was so pleased, and this made our ceremony that much better. You are one-of-a-kind! Thank you so much." Vangie and Clark, Intercontinental New York Barclay, NY

Children can ring bells, as can other guests. Lit candles can be carried by older children.

As an experienced non-denominational, ordained interfaith minister, and celebrant, I officiate legal marriage ceremonies for all creeds, all cultures and all sexual orientations.

Your officiant will be able to help you decide which parts you wish to include in your special day.

Following are contemporary alternatives to a traditional plan.

  • In a traditional marriage event, bridesmaids and groomsmen form the processional party and then stand at the ceremonial stage or altar with the bride and groom.

    One couple chose to have their attendants actively participate by representing the four elements of earth, water, air, and fire theme.

    The feminine indrawing elements of earth and water were represented by two poles one brown and the other green. The opposing masculine outgoing elements of air and fire were represented by poles of blue and red.

    Along the outdoor path stood a female and male couple with crossed poles. The male held the fire and water poles representing opposites. The female held the air and earth
    poles. Crossing the poles created an arch. The passage of the bride and groom represented a ritual cleansing.

    At the indoor aisle, a female attendant stood at one side of the entry opposite a male attendant. She held a bowl of smoking incense representing air and fire. He held a bowl of saltwater symbolizing earth and water.

    As the bride and groom crossed into the aisle, the attendant couple set down the incense and water bowls, and received the poles from the first attendant couple.

    The couple and the pole-bearing attendants stepped up to the ceremonial space, tilting poles to touch and forming the impression of a roof-like structure held in place over the
    bride and groom during the course of the ceremony.
  • Large processionals include all the members of the wedding party. Others include all members of the family.
  • Some couples choose to have the officiant as part of the processional. Others ask special friends and special family members to participate.
  • Throughout my experience, I have had couples who preferred to enter together arm-in-arm or holding hands. Others opted to approach the ceremonial space or altar in sequence.
  • If you have a large number of guests, it will be easier if they are led by groomsmen or ushers to the area in which they will be seated.

I have officiated at standing marriage ceremonies, and guests grow very uncomfortable if it takes longer 90-seconds.

At outdoor ceremonies a guest or two may faint standing in the heat.

Older relatives may not be able to stand for the event.

Consider the comfort and needs of your guests when planning your wedding ceremony order of service.

An experienced officiate such as myself is flexible and can offer suggestions from real situations on your wedding ceremony order of service.

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